I specifically want to watch my long-term partner with another man, but feel it may be pushing his boundaries too far. We had a threesome with one of his close friends, and he was somewhat uncomfortable about it afterwards. They did not interact together at all during this time, but I really would like to watch him do so in the future, not with someone we know, just another man. How do I approach this, and what do I do if I feel like he is not meeting me all the way with my desires, despite me meeting his? Lesbian sex has never been illegal - we once believed women had no sexual drive.
In other words, I would not recommend that you sleep with another woman if you actually want to stay with your wife. She might act like she can now, but things can and usually do change…especially, if she then starts talking about wanting to sleep with another man to even the playing field. Although sleeping with other people is not recommended, the reality is that there is no one size fits all when it comes to the rules of marriage. Every husband and wife is different and every relationship is based on a unique combination of likes, dislikes, morals, beliefs, interests and attractions.