Four and a half years ago, I had sex on the first date with my now-boyfriend. Wait, I should clarify that: four and a half years ago, I slept with my now-boyfriend for the second time on our first date, having already slept with him the week before, after running into him at a party. He was the friend of a friend, and I had had a terrible crush on him for months, whiling away many an afternoon scrolling through his Facebook photos and mentally Photoshopping my own face into them. But in all that time, I had never spent a minute wondering if he would take me less seriously if I slept with him right away. That's probably because I've been sleeping with dudes on the first date for about as long as I've been sleeping with dudes.
Pros & Cons Of Sleeping With Someone On The First Date
I used to think that I should go ahead and have sex on the first date in order to avoid wasting time with a guy but then I found someone different. I held out on sleeping with him and it changed everything. Waiting to have sex kept the thrill alive. Nothing beats the sweet anticipation of seeing each other naked. I used to be impatient and give it up on the first date.
What Guys Really Think Of Hooking Up On The First Date
And what this is is quite simple. We recognize that the modern and common trend is to sleep with a man right away to secure your spot. How many men will you have to sleep with on the first date before you realize that this is not the way to secure your future with a man?
We used to think that falling into bed with someone too soon would disqualify you from being considered girlfriend material. But welcome to , when the world is a lot less sexist than it used to be. Ultimately, getting nekkid with some dude you've known for only 2.