Orgies typically top the list of fantasies most men and women think about when it comes to challenging one's own vanilla-ness. And who can blame them! It's the answer to the world's easiest math equation: if you can have fun with one person, the addition of another person makes the experience twice as fun. Getting into a threesome, foursome, or fivesome isn't as easy as it sounds -- plus, there's no official handbook that teaches us what exactly we're supposed to do when we're in the middle of it. You can tell when people are holding back and when they're open it.
Role play is one of the best ways of flirting with your wildest sexual fantasies. But, sometimes, the pressure to be inventive AND sexy can become too much in the heat of the moment, and you can find yourself drawing a total mind-blank about which roles you might actually want to play. Role play often relies on breaking taboos and creating power dynamics. Therefore, unsurprisingly, work based role plays are a bedroom staple. But, if you want to truly channel the office vibes, maybe leave the bed altogether and try having sex on a table or desk. This role play can have as much historical flair as you like.
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